How to stay a virgin

Choosing to remain a virgin until marriage is a respectable personal decision for either sex. There are many good reasons for pledging to wait until marriage to have sex, including protecting your sexual health, preserving the sanctity of sex, and honoring a special commitment to someone who is significant in your life (your spouse). If you have come to a well thought-out decision about your virginity, this article will help you stay true to your principles.

Do This

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   Know why you made that decision. Your basis for making your choices could be motivated by anything from practicality to theology. Because it is your body, you are allowed to have whatever justifications you'd like about your personal choices. Knowing that you are virgin saves you a lot of a stress, including worrying about whether you are pregnant or have an STD, paying for contraceptives, facing the possibility of needing an abortion or being forced to start a family before you are ready. On the other hand, many people feel as though the Bible dictates that your virginity should be a gift that you give to your spouse after marriage.
   
   
   
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   Be comfortable with your decision. Understand your own reasons for choosing to wait until marriage to have sex, and affirm why those reasons are important to you by writing them down. It may help to post an abridged list on your fridge or desk wall so you can look at it to remind yourself why you made your decision. Posting the list in personal places that you frequent will make it convenient for you to re-affirm your beliefs in times of doubt or temptation.
   
   
   
   • You don't need to justify your choices to the people around you. Let people know that you are only informing people about your decision so that they can be respectful towards your beliefs; you are not trying to lecture them about how they should live their life or to get their approval.
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   Avoid temptation. Don't be alone with someone of the opposite sex in situations where sex would be very tempting. When passion or sexual tension pervades in an environment, you may hastily make a decision that you will later regret. Make your own life easier by choosing to avoid those situations to begin with when you are in an unclouded mental state. The most important thing is to make a decision before you are tempted by sex, because if you have not set limits for yourself, then you will do what feels right at the time. That may be a decision that you will regret later.
   
   
   
   • Keep meeting and dating. Do not be desperate, but don't feel you need to remain alone. A good night kiss, a hug, or holding hands with a person you enjoyed being with is quite appropriate.
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   Reaffirm your decision. Many people have made the choice you have made, so don't give up hope. You will meet friends and potential romantic partners who feel the same way as you do, so don't be afraid about being yourself.
   
   
   
   • Understand not everyone will agree. Respectfully agree to disagree with people who have made different sexual choices. You may want to discuss your reasons for making your respective choices, and you may even get into a friendly debate questioning each other's values. But at the end of the day, both you and your friends should realize that each person is allowed to decide whatever they want with their body and that neither party should attempt to convert or condemn the other for their choices.
   • Recognize that many people brag about how many sexual relations they have had, but don't let that make you feel inferior. Remember that you have different values from those people, and that the number or frequency of intercourse one engages in is not a universal measure of success.

List

• Learn how to say no in case anyone tries to pressure you into intercourse. Learning to say no may mean the difference when it comes down to a sexual situation.
• Understand the difference between displays of affection and actual intercourse. Saving your virginity does not mean that you need to abstain from all displays of emotion. Just make it known from the onset that it will go no further, as you have decided to remain a virgin until marriage. You might very well be surprised to hear that they feel the same way.
• Respect yourself, and others will respect you. If someone laughs or makes fun of you, just turn your back and ignore it.
• Know in your heart that your decision is for the best. Look forward to one day meeting and marrying someone who feels as you do.
• Make sure that your decision came from long hours of really thinking about it. This way, you will be able to remain firm when someone attempts to talk you out of it.
• You can buy a purity ring, which symbolizes your vow to God (if you believe in Him) and yourself to stay pure until marriage. When someone tempts you, just look at your finger with the ring and remember the promise. It is usually worn on the ring finger and when you get married it gets replaced by the wedding ring.
• Stay sober! According to a 1999 study published by The National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse, teens who drink are seven times more likely and those who use drugs are five times more likely to have sex than those who do not. In a 2002 survey conducted by the Kaiser Family Foundation, almost one-third of sexually active young people age 15-24 said they had "done more" sexually than they had planned while drinking or using drugs.
• Try to find people who share the same thoughts , so that you can help each other to stay on the right track. But if you don't find in your working place or among your friends , try using the internet and you will find many. You can talk about you experiences and they shall help you and tell you what is right.

Warning

• Choosing not to have sex until marriage is a personal decision, and as such others may think differently about the matter. Try not to be judgmental. What is right for you may not be right for someone else. Remember that even as you have the freedom to abstain, someone else has the freedom to choose to have sex before marriage.
• Recognize that your mind may change, and thus you need to stay informed. Even if you choose to abstain, research STD transmission and birth control methods.

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How to prevent potential rape

Rapists are predators. Period. By following these steps, you can try to make your world a little safer from those predators. You will get information and skills you need to protect yourself psychologically and physically.

Do This

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   Do not be distracted, especially by technology. Do not jog with your iPod because attackers are looking for easy, distracted individuals who look-like they are not paying attention to surroundings. The same can be said for talking on your cell phone. But, on the other hand, if you feel someone is following you, pull out your cell phone and pretend to be talking to someone because your "conversation partner" would be aware of an attack. If your potential attacker is going for "no witnesses," they might back off and change their mind. You can even pretend you are meeting-up with someone and they are already here/heading this way VERY soon. Don't say "5 minutes" or the attacker may only decide to take action quicker. If they think you are in safe hands or will be in less than a minute, they might back off.
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   Pour about 2-3 table spoons (or 1/2 mug) of milk onto the flour. If the milk 'swamps' the flour, add more of the flour.
   
   
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   Mix together so it becomes a medium-thickness paste. The paste should be rather spreadable and shouldn't cling to the spoon like a thick clumpy cookie dough.
   
   
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   Cleanse and clean your skin.
   
   
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   Spread the paste evenly on your face and any other part of the body you wish to lighten.
   
   
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   Leave the mask on your face for about 30 minutes or until dry.
   
   
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   Wash off with warm water. Remove the remaining paste with cotton wool pads.
   
   
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   Moisturize. This will keep your skin supple, clear and give the bleaching a better effect.
   
   
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   Store the excess paste in a little jar or a bowl which is tightly cling filmed. Put the container in a fridge.
   
   

Tips

• Spread a little of the paste on the back of your hand, to check if it will spread well.
• Its an urban myth that if you moisturise your skin you will get more spots, this is not true, in fact moisturising can even help spots and clear your skin. However if in doubt, buy a moisturiser that has Aloe Vera or Tea Tree in it.
• Use this about once every week, and after about 3-4 weeks, the effects of this mask should show.

Warning

• When I used this mask for the first time, I did see a result when I took it off. My skin looked softer and definitely paler. However this may not be the same for everyone, so be patient!
• Being pale does have a beautiful almost doll like aura about it, but only if used in the right proportions. Remember; Look pale, but look healthy too.
• The Flour and Milk mask does get quite messy and can get stuck in your hair if its not tied back properly.
• The remaining bottled mask that is in the fridge will only last for about 5-7 days, though keep checking back on it and if it has mould on it, throw it out and disinfect the pot!
• It is quite hard to get off your skin sometimes, so use a flannel to get it all off. But BE GENTLE and move the flannel in circular movements across your skin. This will ex foliate it too.
• Please check to see if you are allergic to either of these ingredients.

Things You Will Need

• Plain Flour
• Milk
• A small, seal-able container. Like a jar that contained moisturiser.
• A table spoon
• A small bowl
• A facecloth/ flannel
• Moisturiser
• Cotton Wool Pads
• Warm Water
• A fridge

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How to deal with ur period at ur scool

It may be harder to keep track of your period at school. Here are some tips to deal with it at school. And don't worry! Every single woman has or has had to go through this so they will understand. Don't feel embarrassed.

Do This

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   Come to school all fresh and clean. You should have a clean pair of undies. Change your feminine product often enough to avoid smelling bad and to help, wear perfume.
   
   
   
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   Go to the bathroom every 3-4 hours. This way, you can check for leaks and change your feminine product if needed. If this is annoying, try wearing a high absorbency tampon so you can go through the whole school day, but remember that it is not so safe to use a tampon for more than 8 consistent hours. If you're not comfortable with a tampon, wear a pad but change it often as it could retain smell.
   
   
   
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   Don't sweat it! Every girl has to go through it sometime if she hasn't already. Chances are that some of the girls in your class have their periods and feel the same way.
   
   
   
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   Don't be embarrassed either. There is no reason to be embarrassed about your period. It is just a part of life and it happens. If you have a situation and need help, just ask your female teacher/ secretary/ nurse/ friend.
   
   
   
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   Always be prepared. If you don't know when your period is due then you should always carry some extra pads/ tampons in a small case in your backpack/ locker/ purse. You never know! You don't want to be surprised with a big red stain on your pants. If you suffer from cramps, you should carry a mini sized Tylenol, Advil, Midol, etc.
   
   
   
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   If you don't like tampons and pads, like for sports and long term activities, you might want to try the diva cup. It is a reusable cup that is like a tampon and won't leak if you have it in right. The cup can last up to 12 hours before you need to change it.
   
   
   
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   Use Period Panties meant for periods. Regular panties do not serve the purpose. Adira Period Panties are Leak-proof and Breathable, so no bad odor. Also you can use one of the "EVE" products to keep odor away.
   
   
   

Tips

• Put a stash in your bag and just bring your bag with you in between classes so you look like you want to save yourself a trip to your locker or something and once in a stall, just take your feminine product out of your bag.
• If you have heavy periods or you're not too sure at the moment, then buy super absorbent pads/ tampons to avoid any discomfort or leaks.
• Keep an extra pair of underwear if you have an emergency at school and need to change right away.
• Many stores sell spandex boyshorts. You can wear them over regular underwear if you want.
• If you are worried about gym shorts in PE being too loose and your pad flying out, especially in humid climates, wear bike shorts or spandex shorts. Or the best option tracksuit bottoms!
• If you're using a tampon, also wear a pad or pantyliner to prevent leaks.
• Try to wear something dark so that if you do leak a little on your clothes, it's not as noticeable as if you wore white or tan.
• If you are embarrassed about bringing your purse or bag with you to the bathroom, you can stick a pad or tampon in your boot or bra.
• At the moment, if you don't have a pad, use folded toilet paper or tissues until you make your way down to the office, nurse's room, or gym teacher's room to get one. Schools always supply pads.
• Bring an extra pair of dark shorts in your backpack just in case or some Tide to Go.
• Even if you forget your "supplies" ask a friend.
• Getting your period can be very stressful! Just ask your mom about it and she'll know exactly what to do.
• Go to your school's medical room and ask for a sanitary towel or tampon, which they should supply.
• Don't let your period get in the way of your day. School can still be fun even when you are menstruating!

Warning

• Be clean! When you come out of the bathroom, make sure you left clean and tidy and not messy.
• Remember to never spray perfume on your pads and/or tampons before use and never spray perfume around your vagina. It could irritate your genitals.
• You can also wear shorts under your jeans in addition to your underwear. It really helps if you have a heavy flow and you are worried about leaking.
• If you leave a tampon in too long, you could develop TSS, which is a rare but deadly disease. Make sure you change your tampon every 3-4 hours to be safe. Read the instructions on your tampon packaging to be fully aware of the risks.
• Have a bath twice a day to stay fresh and clean--in the morning and evening. Also use perfume to help with scent but bathing or showering is necessary.
• Change your pad every 2-4 hours; or your tampon every 3-4 hours.

Things You Will Need

• Be clean! When you come out of the bathroom, make sure you left clean and tidy and not messy.
• Remember to never spray perfume on your pads and/or tampons before use and never spray perfume around your vagina. It could irritate your genitals.
• You can also wear shorts under your jeans in addition to your underwear. It really helps if you have a heavy flow and you are worried about leaking.
• If you leave a tampon in too long, you could develop TSS, which is a rare but deadly disease. Make sure you change your tampon every 3-4 hours to be safe. Read the instructions on your tampon packaging to be fully aware of the risks.
• Have a bath twice a day to stay fresh and clean--in the morning and evening. Also use perfume to help with scent but bathing or showering is necessary.
• Change your pad every 2-4 hours; or your tampon every 3-4 hours.

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How to break up with ur gf nicely

Breaking up is never easy, but it's perhaps even harder to simply continue on in a relationship one isn't happy with. Breaking up with your girlfriend nicely is all about being honest while letting them down softly. Try to be understanding, available, and compassionate when you do it, and you won't have someone who loved you turn into someone who hates you. Read on for some helpful hints about what to do, what not to do, and some sample ideas you can use for inspiration.

Part One: What Not To Do

1. Don't break up with your partner by text, phone or email. This is disrespectful, and for your soon-to-be ex, it can feel like you're being evasive. Have the decency to do it privately and in person.
   
   
   

   • You might not realize it, but there are benefits to ending a relationship in person. For one thing, it gives both people a chance to talk and reflect on the situation. And even though it will be harder to do, it will most likely lead to less drama, which is a good thing.

2. Don't place blame solely on the other person for the breakup. Things are never that simple. Be prepared to discuss your relationship without pointing your finger.
   
   
   

   • You can probably find bad things about your relationship that you contributed to, if you wanted. In an effort to be fair, and to not have your ex-girlfriend feel like she is directly responsible for the end of the relationship, be sure to mention the things that you could have changed to make the relationship better.
     
     
     

   • In some cases, the blame will be solely on the other person. In those situations, it's okay to tell it like it is. If your girlfriend is cheating, abusing drugs, manipulative, or increasingly disrespecting you, you can lay the blame directly on her actions.
     
     • In most cases, this can cause an argument, so be prepared. The upside is that you're being honest with both yourself and her why the relationship didn't work, leaving you both with a better chance of finding lasting love later on. Isn't that what you both want?

3. Don't lead your ex on. If you don't want to be friends afterward, don't leave the door open for that possibility. Find a nice way to say it. Instead of "Oh yeah, and I don't want to stay friends afterwards, just so you know," try something like "You know that I care for you. I just don't think it will be healthy for either of us to stay friends immediately after we break up. Hopefully sometime down the road, when we've both figured stuff out, we can get to that place."
   
   
   

4. Don't be a blabbermouth. Use discretion when telling mutual friends about your break up. Bragging or gossiping could be very hurtful to someone who may already be in a fragile emotional state. On top of that, it could encourage your ex to sling some nasty rumors your way, and generally cause some immature behavior.
   
   
   

   • Tell your close friends, but don't publicize your breakup to acquaintances or people you hardly know. It's probably a good idea to tell your close friends what happened between you and your ex. It's probably not such a great idea to start telling your entire social circle via Facebook, or every girl in your school, that you and your ex are history. It just smacks of desperation.

5. Don't be petty. Being "petty" can be hard to define, but it usually includes doing things that you wouldn't want your girlfriend to do with you if she were hypothetically breaking up with you. This is called the golden rule. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. It's a great rule.
   
   
   

   • Don't cheat on your ex before you break up with them. If something is simmering between you and another girl, have the decency to wait a bit, really think about your feelings, and break up with your current girlfriend before you do anything with the other girl. It will look better to your ex, and feel better for you.

   • Don't treat them poorly before the relationship has ended. (Better yet, don't treat them poorly at all.) If you're still in a relationship, you owe something to the other person. It's not really okay to check out before things have ended. If you don't feel like being nice to your girlfriend, you owe it to her to give her the opportunity to find someone who can.

Part Two: What To Do

1. Try to minimize the heartache. There is no way around the fact that this is going to hurt the other person. It's just like ripping off a bandage — if you rip it off all in one go, the pain will be over quickly, but if you do it slowly, it will hurt for longer. You can help minimize the heartbreak in a couple of ways:
   
   
   

   • Don't be distant. Even if you don't really feel like it, offer hugs and other appropriate signs of affection if you ex looks like she needs it. Be reassuring, not selfish.

   • Find the right time to break up. Obviously, there's never a perfect time. But right before a celebration, test, or vacation is a bad time to do it. Give yourself enough time, and try to do it when she doesn't have anything else significant going on afterward.

   • Resist the urge to argue. When someone is being broken up with, there's a good chance they're going to be angry. Don't feed her anger by provoking, debating, or belittling her. Ex-lovers often say very hurtful things when they argue.

2. Be prepared for a range of emotions. When you finally break up, you have to be prepared for anything. It could be sadness, anger, or even a lack of emotion. It's okay to feel any and all of these emotions during a breakup. If you feel like showing emotion, don't hold back. If the emotion isn't there, for whatever reason, don't force it.
   
   
   

3. Give her a truthful explanation. It's the least that she deserves. If you can't come up with a legitimate reason for why you're no longer interested in the relationship, try thinking it over; talk with a friend. It doesn't have to be perfect, but it should be legitimate. You owe it to her.
   
   
   

   • Show her that you've given it some thought, and offer her some facts to back it up. Don't be aggressive or combative. When explaining the reasons for a breakup, don't talk about other relationships. Your relationship is your own, and breaking up isn't about comparing your relationship to anyone else's.

   • Stay there for as long as she needs an explanation. Don't run out the door as soon as you've said the words "let's break up." Stay with her while she's processing the information, answering any follow-up questions she may have. If you keep returning to the same questions over and over again, tell her that you think that's happening.

4. Be reassuring. If it's appropriate, let her know why you think that she'll make an excellent girlfriend for someone else sometime down the road. Talk about the aspects of her personality that attracted you to her in the beginning, and the traits of hers that stayed strong during the relationship. This way, she won't feel as horrible; it could do something good for her confidence, which will probably be shaken by the breakup.

5. Offer to talk with her at a later time if she has any questions. Unless you've decided that it's absolutely the best to not talk after the breakup, give her the option of discussing things when the situation is a little more calm. This will give you both time to think, and may help her feel like she is also given a chance to get things off her chest.

Tips

• Don't feel guilty about breaking up with your girlfriend, if you try to prolong the break up it will only make it worse.
• Do not aggravate the situation by sending unpleasant messages or phone calls.
• Never say any of the classic break up lines like "It's not you, it's me."
• Wait some time before getting another girlfriend, especially if your former girlfriend often runs into you.
• Put yourself in their place. Imagine how it would feel if you were the one being dumped.
• Following these rules will make the process less painful for both of you. It may even get you a positive reference in the future.
• Try to ask her if she still wants to be friends though, as you might start a great friendship.

Warnings

• No matter how nice you are, the pain is still the same, and she's going to resent you whether you just say it or are the nicest you can be.
• Do not talk to her in the following days. After a few days go by, it might be tempting to see how she is doing to ease your guilt, and also see how she is coping with the break up. This is often bad because it might remind her of the relationship that was lost and doesn't let her move on. Keep in mind that most people get past stress with either anger or depression. Anger is much more productive for them and allows them to move on in a healthy way. If you see her with someone else keep your cool, because you broke up with her, and its time for both of you to move on.